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that leaves behind a trail of techniques.
Much of NLP is taught as a set of techniques simply because the techniques can be
extremely powerful ways to effect change in people. The problem is that if you only know
the techniques, then you won't know what do when unexpected situations come up. For
example, since the NLP Phobia Cure relies on the person making pictures in their mind,
ask yourself the question, "How do I work with a person who has a phobia of making
pictures?"
Remember: The person with the most flexibility (the person who understand the
methodology, not just the techniques) in any given situation is the person who wins.
The NLP attitude is one of wanton curiosity and tenacity. The technology would not exist
today if the developers did not possess a wildly curious and tenacious attitude. In the
same sense, NLP becomes lifeless, cold, and less effective when separated from this
attitude. Life becomes more fun and pleasurable when you begin to adopt a curiosity and
tenacity that propels you into the future. The NLP Practitioner has the flexibility to notice
when what they are doing isn't working and the tenacity do anything else until they
achieve their outcome.
The methodology of NLP is the "how": how to get from point A to point B. The NLP
practitioner does not want to know why a chocolate cake is chocolate. And s/he doesn't
want to know why someone has a phobia. The question "why" will give you the least
useful information. You want to know how the cake is made and how the person is able
to make themselves terrified. This information is useful because you can then use it to
help the person achieve their outcome. The NLP practitioner has the curiosity to find out
what ingredients went into the cake so that they can duplicate it or change it. Also, you
want to know how to work backwards in case someone has a secret recipe.
The Resource Triangle
The Resource Triangle is NLP in a nutshell. It is the basis for all the NLP techniques. If
you learn only one technique in NLP, learn this one. You can basically make up your own
techniques when you follow this as the basic model.
1. Identify a "stuck state. A stuck state is an un-resourceful state or problem state
where you feel less-than-glorious.
2. Get three cards or sheets of paper. Write the letter S (for Stuck
State) on one card. On the other, write the letter D (for
D
Disassociated), and the third card, write the letter R (for
Resource). Place the cards on the floor in a triangle.
R
S
3. Briefly, step onto the "S" or Stuck State card and associate into
the stuck state, but only for a brief second or two.
4. Disassociate from the problem state and step onto the " "D" card, leaving all those
feelings over there (point to the "S" card).
5. While still remaining on the "D" card, turn and look toward the "R" card. Identify a
resource that would be appropriate to the problem. For example, choose humor,
confidence, playfulness, curiosity, etc. See the resource over there (point tot he "R"
card). See the "younger you".
6. Look over at the resource card and know that in a minute you are going to step onto
that card and fully associate into that resource. Now, step onto the "R" card and
wrap the resource around you fully. Feel all the feelings, see what you were seeing
at the time, hear what you were hearing at the time. Feel this state in your entire
body.
7. When you have completely associated into the resource, step onto the "S" card and
step into the problem state, taking all these positive feelings with you. Take a
moment and let this integrate.
8. Step outside the triangle. Take a deep breath and notice how the problem is
different. What new solutions are now available to you that were not available
before? What is new?
Note: If needed, you can repeat the exercise. It is very important to build a very powerful
resource -- one that is more powerful than the stuck state, so that it even makes the stuck
state seem wimpy when compared with the resource. If needed, stack a few resource
states together under one anchor so that the resource state is very intense.
The Swish Pattern
The Swish Pattern is often the first Submodality pattern taught in introductory programs
and Practitioner training. It is designed both as a starting place to learn about how to use
basic Submodalities (size, brightness, location, association and dissociation) and how to
set up generative change. Generative change has a direction built into it, with nothing left
to chance or random outcomes. The Swish Pattern is used to create behavioral changes,
going from a present undesirable behavior to a future, desired replacement behavior,
Swish Pattern Steps
1. Choose a current behavior you would like to change.
2. Choose a replacement behavior.
3. Create a square picture of seeing yourself (dissociated) having the new behavior.
This picture should, when you look at it, give you the good feelings you will have
about yourself when you have made this change.
4. Create another square picture of seeing what it is that triggers the current behavior,
seeing through your own eyes (associated) and having the feelings that you now
have, when you have the old behavior. EXAMPLE: Seeing chocolate and feeling
hungry. Once you have this picture let it fade out (or do a break state) before going to
step 5.
5. Now take the big, bright picture of the current behavior (seeing what you saw when it
was triggered), and in the lower left hand corner of the picture, put a small dark
image of you having the replacement behavior. [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
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that leaves behind a trail of techniques.
Much of NLP is taught as a set of techniques simply because the techniques can be
extremely powerful ways to effect change in people. The problem is that if you only know
the techniques, then you won't know what do when unexpected situations come up. For
example, since the NLP Phobia Cure relies on the person making pictures in their mind,
ask yourself the question, "How do I work with a person who has a phobia of making
pictures?"
Remember: The person with the most flexibility (the person who understand the
methodology, not just the techniques) in any given situation is the person who wins.
The NLP attitude is one of wanton curiosity and tenacity. The technology would not exist
today if the developers did not possess a wildly curious and tenacious attitude. In the
same sense, NLP becomes lifeless, cold, and less effective when separated from this
attitude. Life becomes more fun and pleasurable when you begin to adopt a curiosity and
tenacity that propels you into the future. The NLP Practitioner has the flexibility to notice
when what they are doing isn't working and the tenacity do anything else until they
achieve their outcome.
The methodology of NLP is the "how": how to get from point A to point B. The NLP
practitioner does not want to know why a chocolate cake is chocolate. And s/he doesn't
want to know why someone has a phobia. The question "why" will give you the least
useful information. You want to know how the cake is made and how the person is able
to make themselves terrified. This information is useful because you can then use it to
help the person achieve their outcome. The NLP practitioner has the curiosity to find out
what ingredients went into the cake so that they can duplicate it or change it. Also, you
want to know how to work backwards in case someone has a secret recipe.
The Resource Triangle
The Resource Triangle is NLP in a nutshell. It is the basis for all the NLP techniques. If
you learn only one technique in NLP, learn this one. You can basically make up your own
techniques when you follow this as the basic model.
1. Identify a "stuck state. A stuck state is an un-resourceful state or problem state
where you feel less-than-glorious.
2. Get three cards or sheets of paper. Write the letter S (for Stuck
State) on one card. On the other, write the letter D (for
D
Disassociated), and the third card, write the letter R (for
Resource). Place the cards on the floor in a triangle.
R
S
3. Briefly, step onto the "S" or Stuck State card and associate into
the stuck state, but only for a brief second or two.
4. Disassociate from the problem state and step onto the " "D" card, leaving all those
feelings over there (point to the "S" card).
5. While still remaining on the "D" card, turn and look toward the "R" card. Identify a
resource that would be appropriate to the problem. For example, choose humor,
confidence, playfulness, curiosity, etc. See the resource over there (point tot he "R"
card). See the "younger you".
6. Look over at the resource card and know that in a minute you are going to step onto
that card and fully associate into that resource. Now, step onto the "R" card and
wrap the resource around you fully. Feel all the feelings, see what you were seeing
at the time, hear what you were hearing at the time. Feel this state in your entire
body.
7. When you have completely associated into the resource, step onto the "S" card and
step into the problem state, taking all these positive feelings with you. Take a
moment and let this integrate.
8. Step outside the triangle. Take a deep breath and notice how the problem is
different. What new solutions are now available to you that were not available
before? What is new?
Note: If needed, you can repeat the exercise. It is very important to build a very powerful
resource -- one that is more powerful than the stuck state, so that it even makes the stuck
state seem wimpy when compared with the resource. If needed, stack a few resource
states together under one anchor so that the resource state is very intense.
The Swish Pattern
The Swish Pattern is often the first Submodality pattern taught in introductory programs
and Practitioner training. It is designed both as a starting place to learn about how to use
basic Submodalities (size, brightness, location, association and dissociation) and how to
set up generative change. Generative change has a direction built into it, with nothing left
to chance or random outcomes. The Swish Pattern is used to create behavioral changes,
going from a present undesirable behavior to a future, desired replacement behavior,
Swish Pattern Steps
1. Choose a current behavior you would like to change.
2. Choose a replacement behavior.
3. Create a square picture of seeing yourself (dissociated) having the new behavior.
This picture should, when you look at it, give you the good feelings you will have
about yourself when you have made this change.
4. Create another square picture of seeing what it is that triggers the current behavior,
seeing through your own eyes (associated) and having the feelings that you now
have, when you have the old behavior. EXAMPLE: Seeing chocolate and feeling
hungry. Once you have this picture let it fade out (or do a break state) before going to
step 5.
5. Now take the big, bright picture of the current behavior (seeing what you saw when it
was triggered), and in the lower left hand corner of the picture, put a small dark
image of you having the replacement behavior. [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]